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[greghousesgf]

Beer Not God wasn't anywhere near as much fun as usual last night, I got stuck with talking to this one guy in the group who was acting really bizarrely and his girlfriend who made some really obnoxious comments and one guy who seemed cool but couldn't speak English. A bunch of the people I really like from that group didn't even show up and I was too far down the table to talk to a couple of other people I like.
The first thing this guy says to me is "What did you do with my girlfriend?" I hadn't even seen his girlfriend. Does he think that's funny?
Then later I was talking about how churches don't exactly make single women feel welcome and this guy's girlfriend says some nonsense about me supposedly being a threat to marriages. What? First off, I wouldn't have sex with a married guy (unless his name is Hugh Laurie) and second, men don't like me in that way because I'm not pretty. If there's one thing straight men have in common whether they're atheists or religious, it's getting all fucking judgey about what women look like. They just manifest it differently. For example, there's a sect of Hinduism that believes if a woman doesn't look good it's because she did something really bad in a past life and the gods are punishing her. Then she goes off on this weird tangent about how I should be able to get a boyfriend because I have a computer. As if that made me better looking. I told her about the times I made the mistake of trying online dating and the same thing always happened, the guy would practically beg me to go out with him until he saw me. Then he wouldn't even talk to me.
The last time I was around this guy was at the Tilden Park picnic a few weeks ago. He kept calling me "Kate". My name is Katie. He started bringing that up again. Apparently he thinks it shouldn't matter to me. It's my name and it matters.
Then she wants to know if I'm "retired". I go no, I'm on disability and it's embarrassing. That's one thing that's bothered me about American culture. You are your job. It makes me feel useless.

Comments

[hughville.livejournal.com]

You are more than some job and you are beautiful. Those two are idiots. And the threat to marriages are cheaters which are usually the married man.

Sadly, you are right about society and beauty. It's just some random ideal that is based purely on the physical and is complete and total bullshit. But, you are beautiful. And I will keep saying that because it is true. People who can't or won't see your beauty are blind and stupid. *HUGS*

[chocolate-frapp.livejournal.com]

thank you sweetie!

[nightchild01.livejournal.com]

Those people sound super gross.

I also hate the, 'so what do you do' question.

[chocolate-frapp.livejournal.com]

I've known him for some time but not very well, he's a friend of a very good friend of mine. I never met her before.
I never know what to say to that. I've occasionally lied if I know I'm never going to see that person again.

[nightchild01.livejournal.com]

Gotcha.

I usually say, "I'm unable to work due to my health, I do [hobbies] to keep busy." I redirect to hobbies or something someone else said if they push for details.