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This is kind of eating at me. i was reading a very sad true story in a magazine about a woman whose mom died of breast cancer when she was only twelve. before she died, the mom was talking to her daughter about all these things that she wished she could be alive to see like her going to the senior prom and getting married and having kids. my mom's alive and healthy and isn't going anywhere, but what if this woman whose mom died had turned out like me? I DO NOT WANT kids, I didn't even date in high school so I certainly didn't go to the stupid prom and I don't exactly drive men wild with desire so I'm less likely to get married than the pope. When i was 12 i thought i was going to get married when I grew up but i was very naive when i was 12 and I actually thought that adult men would be less obsessed with women's appearance than boys were, I had no idea it doesn't get any better.

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To be honest, you're a unique person. In a world of snowflakes, you're an icicle. :) It's going to be hard to find someone just like you, who can appreciate you--like, *really* appreciate you-- for who you are. Hell, it may never happen. But you know what? you're not one of those stupid, shallow people who's obsessed with finding a partner, or, worse yet, telling everyone how wonderful their kids are. (don't get me started, that's a looong rant... ) You know how to love yourself a lot better than they do. So it's not a loss--it's actually pretty healthy.

thank you. what a nice thing to say.

Society tells us that this is supposed to be how our lives will be as women. But, not everyone experiences these things or even wants them. This was one woman writing about what her mother wanted for her. Everyone is different and I think that is a glorious thing.

Also, I would not change one thing about you. You are awesome just the way you are.

thank you sweetie. you are so nice to say that.

Men can be awful about what they expect from women, but they usually can tell the difference between fantasy expectations (models) and real life women they have a chance with. For the most part, it's impossible to be too unattractive for most of the male population. I'm sure you're not half as unattractive as you think that you are, anyway! Most men are too busy thinking, 'oh boy, I get to put my penis into a vagina!" to be criticizing their dates.

I never really dated in high school, either, and I don't really think I'm attractive. I've still had my share of unwanted attention from the shallow end of the gene pool. I hear you about the getting married thing, I'm not sure if it's going to happen for me either!

I've gone on online dating services and guys would be practically begging me to go out with them until they saw me. then they wouldn't even talk to me. One guy even ran out the back door of his work when he saw me; it was a tossup who was more pissed, me or his boss.

Ugh, I stay far away from dating sites because they are filled with shallow creeps like that! That other guy is just an asshole, though, seriously wtf.

Awww. *hugs* I totally understand where you are coming from. I think that there is a societal expectation for women to go to prom, get married, and have kids. However, increasingly, less women are marrying and having kids. (It's a slow progression, but still a progression none the less.). If it makes you feel better, the majority of my friends and I do not want children.

I feel as though oftentimes parents have expectations for their children, hopes and dreams, that are illustrative of what was desirable in their generation. I'm sure my parents would be much happier with me if I intended to marry a man, have children, go to school where, when, and for what they want. The fact of the matter is, your life is your life to do with what you choose. You are a very creative person and fun to talk to, and I'd love to meet you if I'm ever in your neck of the woods. :) *hugs* IMO, it's understandable to want a spouse and children, but they aren't necessary to leading a fulfilling life.

I wish you could come visit me here in sunny Calif. *hugs back* I love to play tour guide and show my friends the cool parts of the SF bay area we locals know about that most tourists don't get to see.