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[greghousesgf]

Not much going on here right now, just thinking about some stuff about my own nature. It was pointed out to me that I love to surround myself with the beautiful, from flowers to butterflies to art to Hugh and I never really thought of it before but is that some weird way of compensating for people's low opinion of my own appearance and my anger at this opinion?

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[remydoodle.livejournal.com]

I don't think that's it. You just like nice things. And how do you know people have a low opinion of your appearance? If they've said it to your face, it says more about their own ugliness! If it is something that you think people are thinking about, stop that train. Everyone shines with some beauty that they might not see in themselves.

[chocolate-frapp.livejournal.com]

many people have said it to my face. all my life. i realize that's a pretty small scale problem compared to starving people in Africa but it really hurts sometimes and I know it's a major reason i don't have a boyfriend.

[damigella-314.livejournal.com]

My first answer was of course that it's because you're very beautiful yourself, inside and outside, so you choose to surround yourself with beautiful objects.

But I actually think the desire towards beauty is a very natural one in humans, and it only differs in the kind of beauty one craves. Plato argued that the best education was to use love of beauty to bring kids to loving virtue. As intermediate steps were previewed love for one beautiful man and love for all beautiful men.

So you're just more forward in your education than others are, because you like higher-level form of beauty.

And let me finish with a quote (from a closeted gay man): "Beauty is the first test. There is no permanent place in the world for ugly mathematics." I just see a kind of beauty most people don't, which seems to be fair in view of my total lack of music appreciation.

[chocolate-frapp.livejournal.com]

I like this a lot. thank you.

[direwolfdragon.livejournal.com]

Nah, you just want to surround yourself with the things you enjoy!

If you were trying to alter yourself- physically, emotionally- to change yourself because of people's idiotic opinions, that would be a bit worrying and perhaps a case of compensating, but I don't think that wanting to surround yourself by things you like, compensation of any sort!

[chocolate-frapp.livejournal.com]

true. I don't think there's anything wrong with someone choosing to change their own bod permanently or semi-permanently if they're doing it because they want to for themselves but i think it's making a mistake to do that for somebody else (i.e. "I'm getting pierced because I want people to think I'm cool", etc.)

[pyewacket-1975.livejournal.com]

People are stupid. You're an awesome person with a GREAT smile! I've seen it. When people say stuff like that they're just jealous because they know you have the ability to see the beauty and appreciate things that others might take for granted.

[chocolate-frapp.livejournal.com]

thank you sweetie!

[pyewacket-1975.livejournal.com]

You're very welcome :) One day we'll meet...and kick as at karaoke ;)

[chocolate-frapp.livejournal.com]

come on out here and we'll do just that. I love playing tour guide for my friends. and you can meet karaokegal too.

[pyewacket-1975.livejournal.com]

Anyone who calls herself "Karaokegal" is more than likely gonna kick my karaoke lovin' ass hahah.

[julianathursday.livejournal.com]

To me it sounds like you want to block out the ugly and only focus on the beautiful. And that my friend is a very admirable trait in my eyes!