singing. i am a big music geek but i can't play any instruments or write songs but I took some consolation in the idea that I sang really well, which I'm starting to really doubt now. :(
Well, if it's not something that directly effects them, they should keep their opinions to themselves. And if it is, they should just be up front with you. People like that aren't friends if they can't be honest to your face about any problems.
the thing is, I asked for their opinions expecting positive feedback (I was trying to make a point about something) and they wouldn't answer me at all. the upsetting part is thinking all my life that I was good at this and now wondering if everyone was bullshitting me and i was bad at it.
Yeah, I can see where that would be upsetting. I don't know what this thing is, but even if you've never been as good at it as you think you are, there would be kind ways to tell you that.
Say it was... I dunno... playing piano. You played for your friends and they all half smiled, looked around the room awkwardly, said "Yeah good job" and changed the topic.
What I would do - and no it wouldn't be easy - would be to tell you the things you did well, what I liked about your piece, and then offer some concrit on what you could improve on.
They don't have to come right out and go "Yeah, you suck", and it's a hard position for a friend to be in, but ultimately they need to be up front.
singing. they didn't go "you suck", I asked them if they thought I did good,( I had been told in the past that i sang really well by other people) and they wouldn't even answer me.
I was with a group of friends the other night and was trying to make a point about something and brought up the idea that I sing well. Only two people in that group had actually heard me sing and I asked them for confirmation and they both refused to say anything.
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Date: 2011-01-17 04:36 pm (UTC)Sorry you feel that way, however, there's no reason you have to believe them.
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Date: 2011-01-17 09:11 pm (UTC)Say it was... I dunno... playing piano. You played for your friends and they all half smiled, looked around the room awkwardly, said "Yeah good job" and changed the topic.
What I would do - and no it wouldn't be easy - would be to tell you the things you did well, what I liked about your piece, and then offer some concrit on what you could improve on.
They don't have to come right out and go "Yeah, you suck", and it's a hard position for a friend to be in, but ultimately they need to be up front.
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