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[greghousesgf]

Last night I got an e mail from L. telling me they won't be seeing me for an indefinite amount of time. I sent back an e mail asking what was wrong. They never answered me. This is someone I've been best friends with for 28 years. I didn't have any kind of an argument with them. The only thing I can think of is that they are an in home caregiver to somebody with a spinal problem and this person's health may have deteriorated to the point where L. is spending so much time and energy that they don't have enough left to be with me but if that's the case why didn't they tell me this? If that person's health has gotten that bad I certainly don't resent them, I just feel sorry for both of them and I'm worried about both of them.
A few days before that they had e mailed me a piece of art I liked which does not sound like something anyone would do to somebody they were mad at but I'm hurt and confused.
Still going to the concert today.

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[beed]

=( i hope everything goes okay with L and that they respond to you sooner than later. (hugs)

[greghousesgf]

thank you

[sixbeforelunch]

Oh that's rough. I hope you get an answer soon.

[greghousesgf]

thank you

[meowmensteen]

This is good for me to read because I'm kind of in a rough patch right now, and have been wanting my friends to give me some space, but I'm not comfortable explaining why. I guess it's important for me to remember how it might look from the other side. Really it's kind of like what you suspect L is going through. Taking care of another person when they're not well, really sucks the life out of you.

[greghousesgf]

I just hope it's not something worse.

[qwentoozla]

That seems really abrupt and confusing. :(

[enchanted_jae]

That's odd. Maybe wait a few days and if you don't hear from L, try reaching out again?

[greghousesgf]

they usually answer e mails fairly fast.

[prowler_pilot]

I hope you'll get an answer from L. soon. Sending hugs.

[greghousesgf]

hugs back

[svgurl]

*hugs* I'm sorry. That must've felt really sudden and I hope you hear from them/get a better explanation in the near future.

[greghousesgf]

thank you, hugs back

[noachoc]

Any news?

[greghousesgf]

no

[pianogurl330]

*HUGS* I hope L responds with an explanation so you know what's going on.

[greghousesgf]

hugs back

[kiwirazzi]

I really hope that you will find out why L decided they need some time for themselves. But I also feel that this - the care giving - might be so straining for them that they will need to focus on themselves as well. I know that from my own battles - I at times just need to withdraw to recharge, because I really have no spoons left whatsoever. I remember that some years ago, I had a phase like that: I was mentally SO wiped that I only sparsely interacted on FB and other socials, and this attention seeking ex friend of mine (racist on top of it) sent me a complaining message about not being in touch anymore, so I took the time and wrote her a lengthy message back, explaining my situation, and all I got back was "Okay, I get that but I have it so much worse blah blah."

Hope that's not the case with L, though! And that they will get back to you.

*hugs* if you want them.

[greghousesgf]

thank you. hugs back.

[haebin]

Oh wow, that is tough :(
I can imagine that this is really painful. I hope you will hear soon from L.
*offers you a gentle hug*
♥

[greghousesgf]

hugs back